We talk to children before parents because the Word of God often does, Eph 6:1-3, Col 3:20. Once parents understand what God asks and expects children to be, they will instantly be better parents, By "children" we mean all unmarried young people still dependent ( some more, some less) on their parents.

What is the keyword ?

"Obey". Eph 6:1-3, Col 3:20 and see Exodus 20:12.

  • What sort of obedience ?
    • Complete and unquestioning. Eph 6:1-3, Col 3:20. It does not say "Obey your parents .....when they are right'". It says "Obey ....for this is right"! They are to be obeyed even when they are wrong. The child who obeys, even then, will bask in the sunshine of God's approval. "In the Lord". Eph 6:1.
    • Children are to be aware that GOD has given their parents authority over them. They stand in the place of God to the child, and are not free to back out of this responsibility. To obey them is to please Him. Col 3:20
    • Therefore to disobey them is an act of rebellion against GOD. Disobedience to parents is an iniquitous and wicked sin of the worst kind. See Exodus 21:17, Deut 21:18-21, Matt 15:4.
    • Aware that God rewards it. Eph 6:1-3. The fifth commandment carries a promise! If you obey it, it will go "well with thee". And there are wider benefits too ( as we shall now see).
  • What are the blessings of such obedience ?
    • Obey - and make spiritual progress. To disobey is to sin, so your walk with God will be clouded and spoiled. Eph 6:1, Isa 59:1-2. To obey is to be Christ like. Luke 2:51-52, 1 Jhn 2:6.
    • Obey - and be happy for obedience is linked to blessedness. Psalm 1, 19:11. The child's part is simply to obey; God has relieved him of shouldering the responsibility of the family, or making its decisions. What relief to a young person !
    • Obey - and enjoy freedom. Fom the earliest times the Devil has suggested there can be no freedom where there are rules. Gen 3. But God All-Wise contradicts this. Psalm 119:44-45 (Compare driving on the road). Parents only usually make unreasonable restrictions when they do not trust their child. Obedience builds up trust !
    • Obey - and grow up ! Only in an atmosphere of obedience is there perfect spiritual, intellectual and physical development. Luke 2:52-52.
    • Obey - and be strong. A person who learns to obey does things because a God-ordained authority says so, not because the fancy takes him. Later in life he does things on the ground of principle, not because of some passing whim. He becomes strong morally - not easily led, wishy-washy, afraid to say NO. Eli's sons were not taught to obey, and became wayward. 1 Samuel 3:13-14. Most lives which end in ruins are the result of youthful disobedience. It is a fact, unless you buckle to, and learn to obey NOW, you will be WEAK ALWAYS
    • Obey - and be a leader. This follows from the point above. It is a Biblical principle that no-one can lead who has not first learned to obey. Phil 2:5-11, Heb 2:10, Luke 7:8. The worthwhile parents and Christian leaders of the future will be the young people of today who are OBEYING AT HOME. Tthe ruined homes and liabilities of the future church will be the young people who are not COMPLETELY obedient at home.
    • Disobedience always leaves disaster behind it. Obedience always leaves blessing ! See Romans 5:19.