We have seen what God's Word teaches about marriage in an earlier section. We have seen the privileges & responsibilities partners share together.Now we see what individual responsibilities partners have.

We start with wives, because Scripture usually does. ( Eph 5:22, Col 3:18). What is the keyword ?

"Submission" - which means to yield humble and intelligent obedience to an ordained power or authority. There are many passages about woman's relation to man. All of them bring out this aspect :- 1 Cor 11:3-16, Eph 5:22-33, Col 3:18-19, 1 Tim 2:8-15. Creation demands it. Redemption does not cancel it, but underlines it. 1 Cor 14:34-35.

  • What sort of submission?
    • As unto the Lord. Eph 5:22 Col 3:18.
    • the godly woman recognises that the Divine pattern is that man should lead and rule, and woman should follow.
    • the Fall emphasised this. Gen 3:16.
    • the man is just as much the woman's head, as Christ is his head. 1 Cor 11:3.
    • this even applies to women with unconverted husband's. 1 Pet 3:1.
    • In everything. Eph 5:24. in every sphere of life. just as much as the Church is to be subject to Christ
    • Not to accept this position of submission is the same as accusing God of lack of wisdom; and is to suggest that the Church need not obey Christ either.
  • But remember :- 
    • This submission does not suggest that woman is inferior.
    • It is God's order. Where a man asks his wife to break a clear Scriptural command, she is not bound to obey. Acts 5:29. ("As is fitting" Col 3:18).
    • It is God's will that the only men to whom a woman should submit should be a certain sort of man. Col 3:l9.
    • How happy is that marriage where both partners live by God's Word!
  • What are the blessings of such submission?
    • The manifestation of Christ because wherever His commandments are kept, He is manifested, and particularly in this point. Jn 14:21-23 Eph 5:22-33.
    • Protection. Women are more vulnerable than men - physically, emotionally, spiritually (see Gen 3:16, James 1:27, 1 Tim 2:12-14). Where women submit, the men take the knocks, and the women are protected.
    • Harmony. Conflict is caused by dispute about who is head. Where Scripture is obeyed, this is avoided. 1 Cor 11:3
    • Spiritual power. There is such power in submission, that by submission alone a woman may win her unconverted husband 1 Pet 3:1.
    • Where there is submission God is pleased, holiness is found, and prayers are answered. 1 Peter 3:1-7.
    • Women who live by this teaching will be a blessing to husband, children, church and nation. In adopting God's ways they should not be forgetful that God has also given an outward sign of this submission -read thoughtfully 1 Cor 11:3-16.
    • Husbands have no right to expect their wives to live by God's Word, unless they do so first. ( see next week).
    • In adopting God's ways they should not be forgetful that God has given an outward sign that man is the head of the woman - read thoughtfully 1 Cor 11:3-16.